Missymae
I have an amazing daughter who will be 12 next week. She has always been the light in our eye, but in some sadness she has been different. When an infant she could not figure out the shape sorter toy. She would get highly stressed over it and throw it. She would stare off into space for several seconds. We seen a neurologist who did multiple tests and came back no seizures. She struggles in school sometimes. went threw a spell of complete OCD she has never played with doll babies or barbies, because??? she gets easily frustrated with her sister who loves to play. She doesn't understand or comprehend why my other daughter is making her dolls talk.. when i have a group of girls over her age and her sisters they all play but my daughter just sits back over whelmed. complain its stupid. About a month ago we watched My sisters' keeper. Total tear jerk type of movie. My youngest and I are in tears, my oldest looks at me and says " why are you crying?'. Today I rented Where the Red fern grows. Again we are all balling and my oldest doesn't seem affected by it at all. Is this normal?
Now when it comes to real life things that she has emotions for.. they are above and beyond. My 81 year old grandma whom she is overly close with, has not been doing well. My daughter has completely pushed her self away. They used to be best friends, when grandma fell the other day my daughter could not go into the house, she sat out side balling and puking. Are these normal behaviors or is there something deeper? I don't want to put her into the mental health classification if it is not needed. Thank you for listening to my rant!
My daughter has never played with barbies or babies EVER!
Answer
It doesn't completely sound like a mental health issue. I mean there are some signs of maybe a slight mental health issues but it could be little things like learning Disabillities.But she's a girl and growing up. The movies might not effect her because she doesn't truly know the people she has no real relation to them. So it doesn't phase her like her grandmother does. She could be pushing away because she is terrified of losing her grandmother. So she is trying to protect herself. As for having the girls over to play and hangout and she Is not engaging she just might not be a big people person. Instead of a big group start her off small may e one friend twice a week. Then gradually move forward. So she becomes comfortable. If your truly worried I say get her tested for dyslexia and other learning problems once you've ruled those out talk to your daughter see what she thinks make her keep a journal about how she feels so you can get an insight to her mind and you know maybe get her checked for an acute down syndrome. I'm not implying age has any of these so please don't think I'm trying to be rude. Or put your daughter down. I promise I am not but for your sake and your families sake try and start ruling out all possibilities. And it could just be that's her personality she is very comfortable with being on her own and doesn't need other people. But please keep and open mind and give her lots of love.
It doesn't completely sound like a mental health issue. I mean there are some signs of maybe a slight mental health issues but it could be little things like learning Disabillities.But she's a girl and growing up. The movies might not effect her because she doesn't truly know the people she has no real relation to them. So it doesn't phase her like her grandmother does. She could be pushing away because she is terrified of losing her grandmother. So she is trying to protect herself. As for having the girls over to play and hangout and she Is not engaging she just might not be a big people person. Instead of a big group start her off small may e one friend twice a week. Then gradually move forward. So she becomes comfortable. If your truly worried I say get her tested for dyslexia and other learning problems once you've ruled those out talk to your daughter see what she thinks make her keep a journal about how she feels so you can get an insight to her mind and you know maybe get her checked for an acute down syndrome. I'm not implying age has any of these so please don't think I'm trying to be rude. Or put your daughter down. I promise I am not but for your sake and your families sake try and start ruling out all possibilities. And it could just be that's her personality she is very comfortable with being on her own and doesn't need other people. But please keep and open mind and give her lots of love.
About hedgehogs?
carpetshar
Ok, I have a few questions about hedgehogs:
1) How do you hold those things!? I've never even touched one but i've seen them in pet stores and i've watched videos on youtube and i see people hold them also while they are on thier backs! Doesn't that hurt your hand? How do the quills feel? Does it break skin?
2) Do they have any personality? No offense but they sem kinda....i don't know either sleepy or....stupid all the time or something....?
4) I've heard of different colored hedgehogs but they all seem like the same color to me. What are the different colors of them?
3) How are they as pets? Tell me everything you know about them!
Thank you!
Oops! I mixed up 3 and 4 my bad!
Also, do they poop a lot? if I were to let one run around my room or soemthing how often would it go to the bathroom?
Answer
1) It takes a bit of practice to get used to holding a hedgehog. When they are on their backs in your hands, their weight is evenly distributed amongst all their quills so they do not put a lot of pressure to hurt, let alone break skin. It feels kind of weird, I would compare it to dry grass or hay. When a hedgie is relaxed in your palm, it shouldn't hurt. If you are holding a huffy hedgie, it will hurt a bit just because their quills are pointing in multiple directions. I have had hedgehogs for many years now and have never had a problem with cuts or punctures from hedgie spines. Some people with sensitive skin have reported a speckly rash from hedgie quills, but this is kind of rare and doesn't happen to the majority.
2) I have had 25+ hedgies live here at one time or another and I must say that I have noticed some obvious personalities with them. They are not like dogs. They are not pack animals, they prefer solitary, so for this reason they do not seem to respond to humans which is why they may come off as sleepy. Being nocturnal, they should be sleepy during the day which is when you probably saw them in the pet store. At night however, they do have their quirks and let their little personalities shine.
4) In the wild, there would have only been one colour - or two if you count albinism. Years of selective breeding and spontaneous mutation has led to lighter colours and different patterns. The most popular colours are Chocolate, Brown and Grey which are often lumped together and referred to as 'Salt and Pepper' or 'Standard'. Lighter colours are Cinnamon, Apricot and Cinnicot. Some patterns that occur in all of these colours are pinto, snowflake and white. There are countless combinations and many other shades of these basic colours.
3) Hedgehogs make great pets for any person who is busy during the day and home in the evening to care for them when they are waking up. Although start up is expensive, they are pretty low maintenance to keep afterwards.
They need spacious cages with an exercise wheel to keep them at an appropriate weight and they eat a diet of high quality/low fat cat food supplemented with mealworms, cooked chicken, veggies and other treats. They should never be fed commercial hedgehog foods... it is not properly formulated for domestic hedgehogs.
The bedding should be aspen shavings, carefresh or fleece liners and they should have toys to keep them mentally stimulated. Toilet paper tubes, cat toys, infant toys, etc... are all appropriate for hedgehogs.
Hedgehogs are prone to mites, cancer and wobbly hedgehog syndrome and require regular veterinary attention to keep them healthy.
If you are looking to get a hedgie as a pet, use this info as a starting point and keep researching elsewhere. Also, please buy from a breeder. Animals in pet stores are often inbred and have a high chance of developing disease. Should you buy from a breeder, you will also be buying from a knowledgeable individual who can help you with any questions you may have later down the line. Here are some sites you can use during your research:
Chins & Quills forum: http://www.chins-n-quills.com/forums/
Hedgehog Central: http://www.hedgehogcentral.com/ (*has a list of breeders and veterinarians in North America and Europe, as well as information on care)
Good luck!
1) It takes a bit of practice to get used to holding a hedgehog. When they are on their backs in your hands, their weight is evenly distributed amongst all their quills so they do not put a lot of pressure to hurt, let alone break skin. It feels kind of weird, I would compare it to dry grass or hay. When a hedgie is relaxed in your palm, it shouldn't hurt. If you are holding a huffy hedgie, it will hurt a bit just because their quills are pointing in multiple directions. I have had hedgehogs for many years now and have never had a problem with cuts or punctures from hedgie spines. Some people with sensitive skin have reported a speckly rash from hedgie quills, but this is kind of rare and doesn't happen to the majority.
2) I have had 25+ hedgies live here at one time or another and I must say that I have noticed some obvious personalities with them. They are not like dogs. They are not pack animals, they prefer solitary, so for this reason they do not seem to respond to humans which is why they may come off as sleepy. Being nocturnal, they should be sleepy during the day which is when you probably saw them in the pet store. At night however, they do have their quirks and let their little personalities shine.
4) In the wild, there would have only been one colour - or two if you count albinism. Years of selective breeding and spontaneous mutation has led to lighter colours and different patterns. The most popular colours are Chocolate, Brown and Grey which are often lumped together and referred to as 'Salt and Pepper' or 'Standard'. Lighter colours are Cinnamon, Apricot and Cinnicot. Some patterns that occur in all of these colours are pinto, snowflake and white. There are countless combinations and many other shades of these basic colours.
3) Hedgehogs make great pets for any person who is busy during the day and home in the evening to care for them when they are waking up. Although start up is expensive, they are pretty low maintenance to keep afterwards.
They need spacious cages with an exercise wheel to keep them at an appropriate weight and they eat a diet of high quality/low fat cat food supplemented with mealworms, cooked chicken, veggies and other treats. They should never be fed commercial hedgehog foods... it is not properly formulated for domestic hedgehogs.
The bedding should be aspen shavings, carefresh or fleece liners and they should have toys to keep them mentally stimulated. Toilet paper tubes, cat toys, infant toys, etc... are all appropriate for hedgehogs.
Hedgehogs are prone to mites, cancer and wobbly hedgehog syndrome and require regular veterinary attention to keep them healthy.
If you are looking to get a hedgie as a pet, use this info as a starting point and keep researching elsewhere. Also, please buy from a breeder. Animals in pet stores are often inbred and have a high chance of developing disease. Should you buy from a breeder, you will also be buying from a knowledgeable individual who can help you with any questions you may have later down the line. Here are some sites you can use during your research:
Chins & Quills forum: http://www.chins-n-quills.com/forums/
Hedgehog Central: http://www.hedgehogcentral.com/ (*has a list of breeders and veterinarians in North America and Europe, as well as information on care)
Good luck!
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