Thursday, August 22, 2013

Girlfriends pregnant, advice please?

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Tony


I've always said I've never wanted kids until I was atleast 30. Don't get me wrong I love kids but wanted to be set instead of struggling like my mom did (my dad got put in prison when I was 3). Well here I am 19 years old 2 months away from being 20 and my girlfriend told me that she's pregnant (she literally sent me a picture of the test then tested in front of me when I went over). 

I'm honestly excited as can be but I still can't help but worry. We both agreed NO abortion/adoption this is OUR child.

How can I start preparing?
I already work at Food lion almost 40 hours a week. Along with willing to look for another. The mother is 18 working at Walmart and going to school. 

What else can I do?

Advice



Answer
Your best. Your baby needs a stable home and the love of his/her parents. If you don't have an apartment you should get one, but the help of parents is always great, especially as an unprepared young couple. My son is 3 months and we're just getting settled and looking to purchase a help with his parent's help. Just make sure he/she has food, a place to stay, warmth. As I can tell you're doing great already. I'd recommend slowly stocking up while you can still afford it. Two boxes and an extra pack of diapers has kept me going so far. Perfect amount. Necessities - burp rags, washclothes, baby bath(unless you're using the sink), crib, infant toys (Not too important until about 3 months), diaper rash cream, infant tylenol/advil, gripe water, baby wipes, shmpoo, baby oil, baby brush (you'll need it for cradle cap) baby lotion, nail clipper, thermometer (most moms use rectal ones from 0-6 mo). I recommend making your own baby food - much cheaper - so get a baby bullet! A food processor works too. Dnt forget orajel he/she will be teething at 3 months!

17 and pregnant.....can I get any advice from parents??? ?




Kia


I literally just found out I am pregnant last week. I am 7 weeks and when my mom first found out she didn't take it well....AT ALL because honestly I am only 17.  Along with that I've done nothing in my life to really show her I'm responsible enough to handle a child. 

I just recently got my drivers license and got a job at iHop. Both I don't really count that as showing her im responsible because both happened within the last month or so. My boyfriend is a little better than me because he has his license for the past 2 years but no job. He did just get a interview for mcDonalds.

For the first two days after my mom found out she was determined I was going to get a abortion or adoption. It was her choice NOT mine. But then she found out that that couldn't happen because she needed my signature too and I'll be damn if that happens because I'm a stern believer that God would not let something happen that I couldn't handle. Along with that I made the choice to have sex I need to take responsibility and grow up. Plus I always wanted children this just happened earlier than expected (No, I didn't plan it. Broke condom) 

Well my mom finally accepted the fact that she can't do anything about it. So told me she isn't helping me with ANYTHING besides medical insurance because she can easily add him/her. Other than that me and him have to clean out the spare bedroom in my house that has nothing but boxes and junk and we are going to turn it into a baby room. Then as the months go on we are going to buy baby stuff to create the room because I make about 280 a week in tips and all together a 1000 a month give or take. 

So I'm wondering what are some things we can do to prepare for this child? How can I go about buying things? 

Advice would be GREAT PLEASE 



Answer
One of the most responsible things you can do is sign up for prenatal classes, CPR classes including infant and child CPR, first aid classes, and parenting classes. Prenatal classes will help you determine what things you need to have when you bring your baby home. They will also teach you how to care for your new baby. Every parent with an infant should know CPR, because things can happen in an instant. If you know what to do, you are less likely to panic, and you are more likely to have a good outcome in an emergency. Parenting classes will teach you about ages and stages, and what your child needs from you as you meet those milestones together.

Don't stock up on things like diapers and formula. Just save the money. You know right away what your baby can tolerate. Babies often have to be switched around between brands due to sensitivities. Breast feeding is best and cheapest. However, you should not buy a breast pump until you have done a LOT of research. Also, do not skimp on a breast pump. The money you save breastfeeding makes up the cost, but a bad breast pump can interfere with your overall success. If you buy one, be sure you are prepared to stick with it. By law, the store can't take it back, even if it is unopened.

You probably won't even need to use a nursery for the first few months. Until your baby is sleeping through the night, it is better for everyone if the baby sleeps in your room with you. It makes late night feedings easier and less disruptive to evrryone's sleep. My son had a nursery, but I ended up with him sleeping in a basket next to my bed when he was a newborn.

Decorate your baby's nursery with soothing colors and keep it as uncluttered as possible. Too much stimulation in the nursery is not good for your baby. There is a time and place when stimulation is good. Bedtime and the nursery are not it. Keep toys to a minimum. Your baby will do little more than sleep, eat, and dirty diapers for a while. As he/she grows, do not let toys take over. Your child does not need more toys at one time than you can reasonably pick up in a couple of minutes. It is actually stressful for the baby to have too many choices, and toy clutter will cause accidents for a creeping or crawling infant, let alone a tripping hazard for a toddler. Make sure all toys are age appropriate.

Sleepers, gowns, onesies, and receiving blankets are what you will use most. Do not buy too much of anything in size 0-6 weeks. Your baby will outgrow those things swiftly. A couple of nice outfits in that size will be sufficient. Most of the time a gown or sleeper is more appropriate. A couple of bathsets with hooded towel will be all you really need for bathing. You will be doing laundry frequently anyway. I recommend buying a couple dozen cloth diapers, even if you plan to use disposable. They are handy for lots of purposes. If you think you will use cloth diapers, get a diaper service. It's totally worth it.




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